Hair Rambles Do[s] and Don't[s]:

No / Little Heat Tips:
Google the ways people style their hair with no heat and try them out, and don’t be discouraged if it doesn’t work the first time. Wrap set for straight, roller set or headband curl or pin curl [I don’t have rollers, I do the other two] for curls or beach waves, or braid for kinky styles. Usually, it’s about how much hair you do in each section and whether or not you want it soft or defined. I like soft, so I don’t use much product / water, I do large sections of hair, and I always have backup styles for everything in case it turns out badly. [Those curls are too defined/kinky? Do a curly side pony or pin-up, those always look better with curls. Style is falling too quickly? Try a partial braid like a Pocahontas twist. Plus, this will keep it fresh and new. NOTE: Kinky, to me, means Z shape instead of S, so they’re just sharper.
Honestly, though, you really shouldn’t let your hair brush against fabric too much, but I only bun my hair if I’m feeling lazy, so I just have to make sure it’s always in top shape to be worn out.

Don’t(s) that you might not have heard as much:

Don’t over condition. It’s difficult to cause, but if you’re DCing like every day, or just not balancing your protein-moisture, you can actually OC, so try to avoid that.

Don’t feel pressured to do *anything* to your hair that you don't want to do:
Relaxed hair can be healthy, and natural hair can be manageable, so don’t go natural/relaxed just for that, that can cause unnecessary stress.
You can grow your hair without cutting it. This sounds generic, yes, but here’s the thing, I haven’t trimmed my ends yet but I’m growing length. I doneedto eventually, but I’m going to do it in small sections. If you’re taking care of your hair, it will improve. Still, you should trim if you can bear it, but if you can’t, don’t let anyone back you into a corner with tales of never growing any length. Your hair is part of you, and it’s your business whether or not you trim it.

Don’t give up! For too long our hair has controlled us, made is feel weak [it won’t grow / black people have ‘bad hair’] or oppressed [if you show your natural hair, you won’t get a job / no one likes afros / relaxed hair is horrible, you’re not black or healthy if you have relaxed hair] or just ugly [if your hair has bounce, you must have bought it / Oh, that’s cute! What kind of weave is that?]. You can rise about all of that nonsense!